Hey Fellow Widows: Guess what?
There IS life after death...YOUR life.
So get out there and live it!
That was today's public service announcement.
Private services will be held later, but they're private, so don't ask.
PWM,
Carol
You are So right, this is My life. I lost my husband four months ago. Friends and family have been helpful and nice, for the most part.
ReplyDeleteMy husband was very influential in this region; and because of his influence people bent over backwards to offer services. My recent rude awakening came when I learned that kindness shown to "us" isn't necessarily the kindness shown to me. I learned that it is NOT safe to assume that our social friends will continue to treat theme, surviving spouse, the same as they treated the "us"the couple. We were an active couple who did everything together and we were involved in the community. I'm still active however I'm treated differently. I never thought I would feel like an outcast. I guess it should be expected.
I'm better these days. Losing my husband was the worse thing that could have happen to me; if I can survive that, then I can survive the changing attitudes of others.
I wonder if anyone else has experienced being ostracized, or treated differently, since their spouse's passing. I'm learning very quickly that this is MY life and no longer and extension of what was OUR life.
Thanks for hosting this blog,it's been a life saver.
I became a widow on September 13, 2009. My husband didn't recover from open heart surgery at the age of 47. We have a 5 year old daughter. Everyone thinks I'm being strong but I'm not. I can't seem to get anything together. Everyone needs something from me and I can't seem to keep up. My daughter is in school and just getting homework done is a very big chore for me. The school is very helpful and understanding. I'm trying to keep her in a "normal" enviroment by getting her involved with Girl Scouts, soccer, and play dates. There are days that I'm fine but others I don't know I'm going to get through them. This is NOT easy and now the tough part.....people have stopped calling. People don't know what to say. It's okay to talk about him. I'm not the one who is crying but I'm consoling people. I keep telling them it is okay to grieve on the loss of your friend. It's okay to laugh about the funny stories. Life is good and I know that this is part of the process. Thanks for the blog.
ReplyDeleteHere is a kind of life after death you can be sure of...
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So true! It's hard to get to that truth. My husband died over 3 years ago, and while my life is changed forever, I can say now (at last) that I am living in the present, and enjoying doing it. I've even found someone new to love, which feels like a miracle. I wish you all the best.
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How to Live Alone When You're Not Sure You Want To
http://www.ehow.com/how_5450159_live-youre-not-sure-want.html