Sunday, April 04, 2010

Daughter Trys to Steal Widowed Mom's Date

Dear Poor Widow Me,

I lost my husband almost three years ago in a small plane accident. We were married 60 years and have a 44 year old daugher, Lisa.  (NOW she is 44)

Even though I recently turned 83 I began to date trying http://www.match.com/.  Lisa encouraged me and even helped me write my profile and she took my picture.

I just found out that she called both men I dated and asked to meet with them.  Then she told them that they don't hold a candle to her father and for them to leave me alone.  They both called to tell me this. That's how I know. She found their phone numbers on my calendar.

Even more upsetting is that they told me she got all flirty with them and said something like, "Don't you want to touch young soft smooth skin and not a wrinkled old witch?"

First of all - My skin is beautiful.  I have taken excellent care of it.

Second - What is she doing?  Should I bring it up to her?  She has never married and has never had a steady man as far as I know and I would know because she lives with me.

Mom/Widow Miriam

Dear Mom/Widow Miriam,

Next you're going to write to say that your daughter and one of these guys are engaged.  We'd better nip this in the bud.  I'm not sure what a bud is or where to find it but we're going to nip it, Miriam.

Absolutely bring it up to her.  She is certainly not upfront with you about your dating.  Obviously, she resents you and your skin.  She is after your dates and your wrinkle cream and I don't know which is worse.

Get a family therapist involved and quick!

Your daughter sounds like she is an adolescent in an adult body.   And I suspect her body has more mileage on it than you think.

PWM